Ashley & Pascal
Wedding hands photo credit: Allie Hughey. Wedding rings photo by Cathy Stancil Photography
How they met
Pascal and Ashley first met because of UC Berkeley, even though neither of them studied there.
Both have lots of friends who went to Cal and a group of Cal alums put together a "Bar Games League" back in 2010. According to Pascal, "We'd meet up at The Nob Hill Tavern (which has since shut down and is now the Wreck Room) every Wednesday to play bar games: pool, darts, flip cup, beer pong, and quarters. The Nob Hill Tavern was quite the dive. We brought all the cups and ping pong balls, etc. We even brought our own beer pitchers which we would pay to have filled up there."
Ashley was on one bar game team and Pascal was on another. They first met over a heated game of quarters, but Pascal didn't muster up the courage to ask her out initially. "About half way through the about 8 week season we were both outside to make calls and it was chilly so I lent her my sweater. Apparently she appreciated it!" On the very last night, Pascal finally asked Ashley out, and the rest is history!
Falling in Love
Pascal knew he loved Ashley because of the culmination of a lot of little moments together with her. "Coming home to her every day. Cooking dinner with her. Laughing (a lot). At one point I realized that she made me want to be a better person and a better partner. I guess at that point I knew she was the one."
When Pascal decided it was time to propose, he planned their 1-year house-iversary party, but it was actually a ruse to get everyone over to celebrate their engagement. "The morning of the party I woke Ashley up really early and told her that I was just excited for the party and wanted to get an early start. We took our dogs up for their usual walk to the very top of Bernal Heights Park, it's a beautiful spot and very meaningful because we purchased our first small condo in Bernal. I had a photographer covertly taking "landscape pictures" up there, then I got down on one knee and proposed!" The party afterwards was great and much merriment ensued.
For Ashley's ring, Pascal knew she liked the idea of reusing an old vintage ring and searched for months on Etsy until he found the perfect 1920s art deco cluster, which Ashley loves.
Picking out the Wedding Ring
When it came time for Pascal to get his wedding band, he was thinking of also using Etsy, but then his good friend Adam got married. "After seeing Adam's ring I was really impressed. It was so beautiful and unique. I really liked the fact that it's not a perfect circle, but rather something more "finger shaped". I also really liked that it was thin and low profile, I didn't want some big bulky thing on my finger. I wanted it to be a part of me, something that I'd never take off and would never be obtrusive."
Along with the fact that Adam had nothing but great things to say about Nick, Pascal decided to pay Nick a visit. "Nick was super straightforward and casual. Not pressuring me at all. I basically told him I just wanted something very simple and classic. He took all the measurements and then in a few weeks I came back in for a fitting. It took a few re-sizes but in the end it fit just right and Nick was really nice about the whole process. He mentioned that Ashley could come in and put the final brushed finish on it, which I really liked. That way she actually had a hand in the making of the ring! You can't say that about most other places."
The Wedding and Happily Ever After
Photos by Cathy Stancil Photography
Ashley and Pascal celebrated their wedding in September 2015 in Pascal's hometown of Sonoma. "We did a really small ceremony at Ravenswood Winery, then had a cocktail hour there where we decorated bikes. From there we all rode bikes (Ashley and I on a tandem!) down to my mom's house in Sonoma (only about 2 miles) where we had a larger reception in her back yard. It was just perfect! Super casual, everyone brought a bottle of wine to share, there was a self-serve taco bar, and we all sat on hay bales along one long table that my brother-in-law built. Could not have gone better and I love the ring that Nick made for me. It's classic, simple, and handsome with a unique twist."